What if your children fall away from Christ?

5.16.15 What can you do when you bring your kids up in Church and when they turn of age they fall away? You have to wonder especially if the kids accepted Christ and then when they grow up they turn away from the word. Was it true Salvation or are they just trying to be their own person? So then there's the question if it was true Salvation will they get back on the right track? I guess all we can do is pray that God leads them back.

The Lord is good; His mercy is everlasting, and His truth endures to all generations. —Psalm 100:5

It may seem surprising when children don’t follow their parents’ example of faith in God. Equally unexpected is a person with a deep commitment to Christ who emerges from a family where faith was not present. In every generation, each person has a choice.

Samuel was a great man of God who appointed his two sons, Joel and Abijah, as leaders over Israel (1 Sam. 8:1-2). Unlike their father, however, they were corrupt and “turned aside after dishonest gain, took bribes, and perverted justice” (v.3). Yet, years later, we find Heman, Joel’s son, appointed as a musician in the house of the Lord (1 Chron. 6:31-33). Heman, Samuel’s grandson—along with Asaph, his right-hand man and the author of many of the psalms—served the Lord by singing joyful songs (15:16-17).

Even though a person seems indifferent toward the faith so precious to his or her parents, God is still at work. Things can change in later years, and seeds of faith may spring to life in generations to come.

No matter what the family situation may be, we know that “the Lord is good; His mercy is everlasting, and His truth endures to all generations.”

God’s faithfulness extends to all generations.

So, because you are lukewarm, neither hot nor cold,
I will spit you out of My mouth. —Revelation 3:16

WHEN children fall away from the Church, people will often say something like this: “Children have free will, and this sort of thing happens. It’s not your fault. Just pray for them.”

Well, an answer like that misses the point entirely. Things don’t just “happen.” Everything we do with our free will has an unconscious motivation, and if we are to live genuine Christian lives we have to discipline ourselves through sacrifice, obedience, and prayer so that unconscious motivation does not draw our wills away from God’s will.

A recent survey conducted by the Barna Group, a leading research organization whose focus is on the relationship of faith and culture, found that less than 1 percent of the young adult population in the United States has a biblical worldview. Even more startling, the data shows that less than one half of one percent of Christians between the ages of 18 and 23 has a biblical worldview.

If your child has walked away from God, remember God's faithfulness, meditate on His Word, and stand on His promises. Our children cannot escape God's passionate pursuit or His unrelenting love. We have a beautiful picture from Luke 15 of God's love for our wayward children, beginning with verse 4, "Suppose one of you has a hundred sheep and loses one of them. Does he not leave the ninety-nine in the open country and go after the lost sheep until he finds it? And when he finds it, he joyfully puts it on his shoulders and goes home. Then he calls his friends and neighbors together and says, 'Rejoice with me; I have found my lost sheep'" (Luke 15:4-6, NIV).

Take heart. God pursues your prodigal child even now, as you read this.

In Conclusion

Sometimes, despite our honorable intentions and best efforts, our children make choices over which we have no control. Regardless of our children's choices and the emotional pain they bring, God calls us to himself, to remain persistent in prayer and faithful in service. We must choose to move forward, trusting God--all the while scanning the horizon as we wait expectantly for our prodigal's return home.

By Mary J. Yerkes


Dear Lord, help me to remember that You are the one who causes the seed of faith to grow. We give our loved ones into Your care, knowing that the end of the story has not yet been written. So as a parent I lift my children and rest of my family in your hands and leave them there so you can do what you will with them and pray that they be receptive to what you would have them do. God if this is an example of one of my facebook friends or family I lift these people up in your hands also that you do a work in their hearts also. God now I ask that you be with my facebook family and friends and know that I love you. I ask these things in Jesus Name Amen.

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